Dangers of dating a coworker
As your friend, I’m not thinking about how great your new boyfriend/girlfriend is but rather wondering why you were both looking for love in such a clearly wrong place. And when you pile together a bunch of people with mutual interests together in the same place for 40 hours a week, office romances are pretty much an inevitability.All it takes is a happy hour, a Christmas Party or any time booze and coworkers mix, and – voila!That’s against the rules at most businesses for a reason – because it kind of breaks every ground rule out there, both personally and professionally. Let’s use some common sense and look at the dangers of workplace dating.There’s no OSHA poster covering this stuff, but there really are some simple rules that everyone should follow to protect both their emotional and career wellbeing. I’m thinking of those couples you see as you’re scrolling through your News Feed, “married 70 years” and all of their advice is typically the same – it’s going to suck but most of the time, not so much so they decide it’s worth sticking around. It’s a bit of trial and error and a lot of compromise, from what I do know.
Using the Career Builder study, I decided to come up with a list of deal breakers for dating at the office.If you’re going to do it, then there’s no stopping you, but at least you can be a little choosy about which coworker you choose.If you’re feeling alone this Valentine’s Day and decide to cast aside any semblance of sanity and look for love at the office, make sure to avoid these co-workers to minimize the inevitable awkwardness that’s going to come when you get broken up with during a lunch break (or worse, via work e-mail or at your desk).Here are the 5 types of douche canoes you should never, ever date at the office. Undateable Douchebag #1: “That Guy.” This type of co-worker, who’s almost always (with some exceptions) a guy, who prides himself on his conquests with coworkers – and has already taken home half the call center, most of the corporate comm team and every temp receptionist ever (and loves talking about it, too). With that unique filter, I work to craft messages that strategically improve the perceptions and experiences of our clients, the people they employ and the candidates they wish to attract.Worse, this Casanova of colleagues has bagged the biggest prize of all…your boss. This is the co-worker whose schedule is completely opposite yours – you’re there mornings, he’s there nights and weekends, meaning you’ll never see them – and have to make the most of that limited time. I methodically review and collect research and insights to offer solution-based recommendations that meet the one-off, and not so one-off, recruiting and employer branding problems of today’s global employers.So, if you’re looking at the employee directory like some sort of proprietary Tindr, then ask yourself: What in the hell makes you think that hooking up with a coworker is a good idea? From Sam and Diane on to, well, the entire Grey’s Anatomy casts, there’s no doubt that office romance makes for good television.Now, call me crazy, but what makes for compelling primetime programming doesn’t normally translate into solid life choices.You really get to know the characters and then, once they meet, it’s magical.I use the word ‘magical,’ because as a culture, when it comes to romance, we have a great attachment to the significance of meetings.No matter what I say, you probably already know that love and the workplace don’t mix, but according to a recently released Career Builder study, just in time for Valentine’s Day, that doesn’t seem to be stopping you. This statistic also means that fully 70% of interoffice relationships fizzled, and probably created a ton of drama and a ton of awkwardness at the office for both the couple and their coworkers.In fact, 37% of respondents report having previously dated a co-worker, and 30% of those romances have reportedly led to marriage. I’m not sure what’s worse – having to see your ex every day or having to deal with the drama involved in decoupling coworkers.