Dating a divorced with kids
“One calls him a leech, just because he doesn’t have as much money as I do.The other says he’s boring and that she’d rather be with interesting people.” Lieberman says: “Anne needs to realize that this is probably an expression of her children’s fear or jealousy.” Her advice: Acknowledge their feelings and try to talk it out, or, if they’re not willing or mature enough, to learn to live with it and minimize stressful family get-togethers until they are.6 Tips to Ease the Transition With a New Partner Life with kids is never easy, even when they’ve grown up and moved out.“But the next time I visited them, Pat was showing off her new emerald-cut sapphire ring.
“Both of their significant others don’t like my husband,” Anne says.
But if your relationship with them starts to suffer because of a new romance, follow these suggestions from Salamon and Lieberman.
(MORE: Make Your Wishes Known Through End-of-Life Planning) As annoying as grown children’s objections to your new love might be, Lieberman brings up an important point: Children’s feelings are important to acknowledge and address — and sometimes they can even be instructive.
The kids may feel loyal to their mother, or worse, they may think you're trying to replace the other parent.
By taking things slow and being sensitive to the situation, you can develop a supportive and meaningful relationship with a single dad.